January 2025 Highlights

2025 started off very slowly after 2024 ended like a lion. It was great to be able to reset and work on personal projects, even if I ended up making 3 weeks of income in just the final 10 days!

The first project I took on, redoing the dining room, was really an impulsive thing. I was just fed up with the dining room set that came with the house. It was the last major bit of the original furniture that I didn’t like (the sofas are still just fine!) and I was just over the smelly water-damaged china cabinet and broken chairs. I posted the set on MarketPlace with a very honest description of all the issues and was surprised to not only have a ton of interest but to sell it within 24 hours! A gentleman asked to come see it and he bought it on the spot! I encountered a great flete (moving) service last summer, so we called them up and they were available and nearby, so the transaction was painless. I was shocked. I then spent the next day shopping for a new dining room set and not being happy with any of the new offerings but also not sure I wanted to have anything made for me. I wanted something warm, with purple, maybe a bit of a tropical vibe (like caning or rattan), and a glass top to protect a wooden table. Oh, and it had to fit my usual spur-of-the-moment-I-did-not-budget-for-this budget.

Something like this, that was posted the day after I sold my set and delivered within a few hours. Some things are meant to be!

I found that china cabinet the same day. It wasn’t what I had in mind, but it would fit in that corner, freeing up a lot of space in the room for another I idea I had, the colour was similar to the table and chairs, and the price was right. This too came very quickly and I am very pleased with it.

The girls approve of the new set. Close up of the sweet pattern on the chair fabric, which has a stain-resistant treatment on it. What are the odds I’d find chairs with purple seats to match the curtains?!

The last two bits to finish off the dining room came later in the month. A bargain version (pine) of my dream dresser for this space — this was new and such a deal I had to jump on it. The drawers have metal rails. The colour isn’t as dark as the rest of the room, but it still pulls a bit of the red of the cedar.

The gentleman who sold me the china cabinet pulled off a miracle and found me a wardrobe suitable to use as a broom and vacuum cupboard! I’ve been looking for one for years, but the hanging area is never tall enough for a broom. This is something the house really needs, a central space to store cleaning and home maintenance tools, and it doesn’t look like a utility cupboard. It’s in good shape, does not smell musty (a question I got), and has great patina. I’m slowly realising my goal of mostly filling the house with high quality used furniture rather than cheap new disposable pieces.

This cupboard will be for the vacuum cleaner. I’m going to make a hole in the back to pass a power cord so I can mount my Dyson charger in it.

The other side has plenty of room for mops, brooms, squeegees, dusters, and more. I’ll mount hooks once I know what I need.

The middle section is already full of cleaning products and tools, offering one drawer and plenty of shelf space.

Simultaneously to the dining room, I set to work mostly finishing up the kitchen after seeing my dream second island on Marketplace. Well, kind of. It was white and too narrow and not tall enough, but it was the design of drawers and shelves behind a door that I wanted. I decided to see if I could break my carpenter curse and contacted the company to see if they could make me one to my specifications and colours. Yep, and the price was right, so I ordered it. The next day, after much thought and number crunching, I sent them these two rough sketches to get their thoughts on a second piece. Drawing over a photo on the iPad is the design tool I did not know I needed! They suggested combining my designs and gave me another great quote, so I ordered it as well! This photo has a HUGE hint for another major improvement to the kitchen thanks to my amazing clients, but you’ll have to wait for the kitchen tour to hear about that!

A couple of weeks after I got the quote, they messaged to ask if they could come take their own measurements for that second, built-in piece. They arrived with the first piece done, and I hadn’t even paid a deposit, much less knew they were working on it! It was such a healing moment after the nightmare of two years before. I was beyond thrilled with the result and pulled off another MarketPlace miracle that very day… finding the perfect almost matching piece of granite for the top and having it delivered quickly. Yep, the kitchen curse was broken.

I spent hours of my impromptu weeks off working on my bag that I mentioned in the December post.

To say that I’m happy with this bag is an understatement. It’s gorgeous, and I’m so proud of the work I did putting it together.

I found a new ramen place in January and despite telling them no eggs and no mushrooms, I got eggs and mushrooms. Jammy duck eggs had been such a hit in September that I decided I had the perfect opportunity to try chicken eggs again as I knew I love this method of preparation and would not have an ick factor. The egg was marinated in soy sauce, so it did not smell badly at all. I took one bite and… nope, nope, nope. It tasted rotten. So my egg intolerance thing really isn’t just in my head. 🙁 At least I know that for sure now.

January was mostly freezing cold, as evidenced by the fact that I wore real jeans during most of it.

Finally, January 2025 was extra special because it’s the month I finally got my Yucatán driver’s license!

Getting My Yucatan Driver’s License

Getting a driver’s license in the Yucatán is notoriously not for the faint of heart. It’s a cumbersome and daunting process, even for locals. I put this off for a long time, until the point where not being able to drive locally started to feel really restrictive. Even if I wasn’t ready to buy a car, I at least wanted the freedom to be able to rent one for weekend getaways, errand days, and vacations.

The procedure to get a license keeps evolving with the rules changing quickly, which happened to me, so I’m not going to go into all the details of the process as that won’t help anyone reading this post. I don’t know how many super detailed recaps I read before starting the process only to discover that most of the advice was obsolete.

One of my hurdles was that the SSP (state police) require a practical parallel parking test and I didn’t have access to a car. The solution was so obvious that I was embarrassed it had to be pointed out to me — take a course at a driving school and use their car for the exam. At the time I was told this, the school did both the theoretical and practical testing, which sounded so much easier and less stressful than doing the exam with the police.

But when I finally started the process in early December 2024, the police had changed their mind about schools doing testing, which was really frustrating as I was nervous about a timed theoretical test, never mind the parallel parking with very exacting criteria.

The first step was to gather all the documents that I needed. Residents have an extra hoop to get their license that actually feels punitive and ridiculous, not something I usually say about procedures here. There’s this law that you can’t drive on your country’s license when you become a resident here, fair enough, but then making people do three trips to immigration to get a license feels like it’s causing the problem they are trying to avoid, leading many expats I know to drive on quasi-legal out-of-state licenses or with no license at all.

Once I had gathered originals of the following documents, I had to make a trip to the SSP to get a letter to take to immigration:

  • residency card
  • passport
  • water or power bill
  • birth certificate (no need to have to have it translated)

The letter to immigration basically says “This person came to us wanting a license. Before we can consider giving her a license, we want to confirm her legal status and address in Yucatán.”

If I was a citizen, I could have shown up with a utility or bank statement showing my name and address, but as a permanent resident, even if I had such a thing, it wasn’t good enough, they needed immigration to confirm it. Which is laughable because all immigration did was check that I had a utility bill that matches the address I have on file. I could have moved ten times and just gone back to that original address and asked the current resident for the most recent bill.

At any rate, the first visit to SSP went quickly. Government processes run really smoothly in Yucatán; it’s very impressive. You arrive somewhere with throngs of people and it looks positively chaotic, but once you get in the right queue, getting things done is efficient. I went to a uniformed officer standing guard and told him I needed a letter from them to take to immigration so I could get my license. He told me to go right in through the gate and speak to a woman at a desk set up outside. There was no line to speak with her. I reiterated what I wanted and all she wanted was a copy of my residency card, not even the original. She then told me to sit on a bench, not the relatively comfy chairs that form the long queues for various services. I sat there for at most 15 minutes catching up on client emails when another lady came up to me, confirmed my name, and gave me the letter. She had me check that the information was correct and discussed next steps and how long I had to complete the process.

The next day I went to immigration. I went up to an attendant and said what I wanted, then was directed to a chair in the queue for folks without appointments, which they called the information queue. I waited about 30 minutes and was let inside, where I had to register and get into another brief queue. When it was finally my turn, the agent didn’t want to see any documents, just gave me a fill-in-the-blanks document to complete that would become my request for the letter (“constancia de domicilio”) and also a form to take to the bank to pay. He told me that they close this part of the office at 1PM, so since it was just past noon, I was best to come back the next business day to continue the process.

The following week, I returned to immigration with the proof of payment and it was much of the same process, but this time my documents got a very cursory review to make sure I had everything, then I was sent to yet another queue for a desk deeper into the building. This next agent did the complete review of my documents and to my relief said, “Muy bien,” signalling that she was satisfied and would issue the letter, which I was told to pick up in about 10 calendar days.

On the date in question, I returned a third time to immigration, this time earlier in the day, and the line was huge and not moving. After perhaps 30 minutes and calculating that I was going to be there at least three hours I heard “Can the lady who is here picking up her constancia de domicilio please come inside.” That was me! I went in, got to skip the inside queue, and was handed my letter and told to review it to make sure everything was accurate. This was a good example of how government offices are keeping track of who is present and get the quick and easy transactions out of the way ahead of potentially lengthier ones. They’re not making people wait just to make people wait.

Next up was driving school, but we were firmly into the Christmas season at this point and work is always heavy that this time. I’d been told driving school was two hours a day for a week, then half a weekend for theoretical, so I wanted to make sure I had plenty of free time.

January 8th of this year, I went to the driving school near my house, Escuela de Manejo del Sureste (which happens to be the top-rated driving school in the city) to ask about the process. Once they knew I have 30 years of extensive driving experience, I was told I did not need to take a full course. They suggested I do an intensive weekend class that consisted of 2.5 hours of theory on a Saturday morning, followed by 2.5 hours of driving, then 2.5 more hours of driving the Sunday. Then I could schedule the school to take me to the police to do my exams, but this could take months! I was bummed as I have vacation at the end of February and was hoping to rent a car, but at least I’d be getting the ball rolling. I enrolled in class for the following weekend so as to not interfere with my Pilates schedule that week.

Driving school weekend finally rolled around. I couldn’t believe how stressed I was about it. The theory class went well and I understood the instructor, but I felt a little slow. We did a practice theory exam at the end that convinced me I would not pass the theory exam at the police since it was timed and you couldn’t go back and review your answers. My Spanish comprehension is good, but I need enough time. But I didn’t want to do the exam in English because I would still be translating. The tests were graded right then and I had two mistakes, with a pass being no more than five. Phew!

(I’ll do a parenthetical here to say that I wrote about the process on a local expats Facebook group and was met with a lot of derision about going back to driving school when I am so experienced. I wanted to make sure I knew local laws. Expats frequently express frustration that “locals can’t drive” and I wanted to see if some of the common scenarios were just a case of the expats not knowing local laws. Yep. The big one is the roundabouts. Here, the interior lane can exit straight, effectively cutting off the middle lane. It’s the single biggest complaint I see from expats and proof of their superiority over locals. But it’s right there in black and white that it’s okay to exit straight from a roundabout interior lane in Yucatán. This discussion was the only time I found the courage to speak up in class and ask for clarification, saying I’ve driven in several countries where that’s not permitted. The instructor said the same was true for him and this is truly a Yucatán quirk.)

I relaxed a bit once I knew I wouldn’t have to redo the theoretical part of the class since they don’t take you to the police unless you pass. I was paired up with my driving instructor, a lovely lady who immediately put me in the driver’s seat once she knew that I was not a brand-new driver. I hadn’t driven a standard transmission vehicle in three years, but since that is the more natural choice for me, I didn’t have any trouble. I got a few notes on my shifting in the immediate moments following departure, and then the instructor realised that this was just me getting used to a new vehicle as I had it down pat within three blocks. She had me drive most of the way to Progreso, allowing me to do both city and highway driving, then let me drive the entire periférico counter-clockwise before taking me to a remote neighbourhood northwest of Mérida to start on the parallel parking practice. At the end of the day I was shocked when she said that she would have never guessed that I hadn’t driven in three years and that I’m an excellent driver with no bad habits! She said we would just focus on parking the next day.

Sunday morning, she insisted on picking me up at home, something I wanted to avoid so that the neighbours wouldn’t see the driving school car parked in front of my house (gossip, LOL!), but she was persistent. She had me head south to an area with a huge empty parking lot. I then parallel parked for two hours straight. OMG. I used to parallel park Miranda without blinking, but a tiny car without sharp corners? It was not happening. I had the theory down pat, but I just could not get it done perfectly, often “failing” because I wasn’t perfectly centred back to front in the parking spot despite being the perfect and straight distance from the curb.

By the time we were done, I was dejected. There was no way I was going to pass my test with the police, especially in a few months with no opportunity to practice. It felt so moronic when I had repeatedly proven I could get in and out of a tight parking spot without hitting anything, which is all that would matter in the real world. I couldn’t understand how upbeat my teacher was when she’d wasted all that time with a student who wasn’t going to get her license. She got back in the car with me to head back to my house.

I was exhausted and not in the mood for a pep talk when she said “Congrats, you passed driving school! And guess what? We got an update from the SSP yesterday that they are overwhelmed with license applications and so have reversed their decision on not accepting a pass from a driving school for experienced drivers. Come back to school tomorrow to get your certificate, then get on to the SSP to get your license!”

WHAT?!

I was in SHOCK. I didn’t even want to tell anyone or even think too hard about it for worry about jinxing my opportunity to finish this process without more effort.

The next morning, I headed straight to a photo place when they opened at 10:00 as I needed two “infantil”-format photos for my school certificate. An Uber picked me up at 10:01. He asked if he should wait for me at the studio. Last time I got photos it took an hour to receive them, so I told him no, and was planning to get some breakfast. Well, the studio upgraded their equipment and had me out the door in 10 minutes! And guess who was waiting for me outside?! “I had a feeling it was going to be fast and I wanted to continue our conversation, so I decided to give it 15 minutes.” I’ve had some kind Uber drivers, but he was the best. He had me at driving school by 10:30. It was really quick there as well, but I’d firmly dismissed the Uber driver because of the chance that I would not get the certificate immediately, in which case I would just walk home. Another Uber showed up quickly, and I was at the SSP at 11:01 on the dot. I could not believe I’d done all that in an hour!

At the SSP I again went to a uniformed agent to ask where I needed to go. He put me in a standing queue outside the main waiting area. A lady did a cursory check of my documents and then told me to go to the same lady at the table I’d been to on the previous visit. That lady did yet another review of my documents, just to make sure I had everything and all my copies, had me sign in, and then waved in the general direction of some chairs and to follow the instructions of the standing lady in black and white.

What followed can only be described as an hour of playing musical chairs. Every five or ten minutes, we’d all have to stand and move five seats down. I’d brought my iPad to work on a job, but eventually gave up and just scrolled Instagram. The time flew by, and I was finally let into the licensing building. Inside, it was set up a lot like the smaller border checkpoints where there were a bunch of kiosks for different tasks all arranged in chronological order around the room. The first step was document reception, and there were about six people doing that. It was a very short wait here, maybe two minutes.

I presented all my documents and discovered I was missing a copy! I don’t even remember of which one, probably the driving school certificate, but the lady said “No worries. We can complete the process, then you can get the copy and continue without losing your place in line.” I’ve had that happen a few times over the years and have never had the horror story scenario of being turned around to start all over for missing a copy. In fact when I was at immigration in the inner office, I discovered I’d left the original of the fill-in-the-blank form in my printer, and the agent said, “Oh, we only care about an original signature, so just sign this copy in blue ink and it’ll be fine.”

Part of completing the process at the document reception kiosk was that you have to give an emergency contact name and phone number that would be printed on the license. I was not ready for that and the only thing I could think to offer was the name of my insurance broker since I’d end up calling her in such a situation! I let her know that night that I’d done that, and she said that was just fine, exactly for the reason I had thought.

All of that sorted, I was sent outside to get my copy. I asked a lady where I could get copies, and she directed me around the circular core of the building, close by but out of sight. Copies were 2 pesos each, going rate at a neighbourhood place 1.5 pesos, perfectly fair for the convenience! I went back inside, gave the agent the document, and was directed to a chair out of the queue.

This is where I felt uncomfortable for the first time as I was now out of the line and not sure what to expect next. After a few minutes, a man came to get me for my “pruebas” (tests)! but before I could even process that, the agent at the counter called out, “No, no, she’s got a certificate from driving school.” THANK GOODNESS. I still wasn’t sure at this point that I was leaving with a license, but it was becoming more and more likely. After a few more mionutes, a different lady approached me with my packet of paperwork and told me to go to the end of the room to the medical unit.

There was no wait there. First stop was to get the eye test. Next stop was to give them my blood type. They are set up to do blood typing, but I knew mine. I also had to fill out for the third time the same brief medical questionnaire.

That completed, I was told to get in line to pay. This is when it hit me for the first time that I was through this arduous task and was going to walk out with a license. J’étais abasourdie.

At payment, I was told that as a new driver I could only get a two-year, not five-year. license. The cost was just under $800, and, yet another update, I could pay with my credit card rather than cash. I use my card when I can because I get points that are like cash. This year I paid for half of my property taxes with my points, so it really is like free money!

There were two more queues after payment! Next stop was picture and biometrics (digital fingerprints and retina scan, which I’d already gone through at the tax office a few years back), with a final document check that I understood after the fact was to make sure that information printed onto your license (pretty much your entire life story) was accurate.

Then there was maybe a 30-second wait to have the license delivered. I forget exactly what that last agent said to me, but I remember his tone. He was doing something so banal to him, but his tone along with something like “Felicidades” spoke volumes that he understood that to me, this was not routine, that I’d come through something huge that needed acknowledgement and that I was being praised for making it to the other side. What kindness!

I headed outside in absolute shock that I was finally a legally licensed driver in Yucatán.

The photo lady done me dirty telling me my hair was perfect! LOL But look at that hair! I came to Mexico with an SK license where I had no hair in the photo! (The back of the card has your address and phone number, your CURP, your emergency contact and number, your blood type, the name of your driving school, your place of birth, and more!)

I promptly texted my instructor to let her know, and her reply made her seem more excited than even I was. LOL I am so grateful for how enthusiastic she was in making sure I succeeded and then celebrating that success.

What a journey, but now, a new, freer, phase of my life in Yucatán can begin! Road trip ahead!!!!!

December 2024 Highlights

December only barely slowed down at work, but I still started on a few personal projects while Alma debated starting an Only Fans

and Dodger took up up Pilates.

This gorgeous bag kept showing up on my Facebook feed for months (Meta really knows me). It is by a small Mexican designer named Motola and made from recycled plastic and aluminium. I treated myself to one for getting through trials.

I also treated myself to a genuine leather bag kit from Babylon Leather and started slowly working on putting that together. I could not believe I got the kit in the 10 promised days and that it flew through aduanas! I’ll do the reveal in the January post. 🙂

I made some really pretty meals in December. This one was Greek-inspired:

And this one was Tex-Mex:

I always get a ham at Christmas, and this year I got it just about perfect after cooking it all morning in the slow cooker with beer, molasses, orange juice, spices, and more.

The most amazing thing that happened in December is that I started on one heck of a quest that would change my life forever more and give me true freedom in my new life here in Yucatán. You can look forward to the entire tale in the next post, but here is a spoiler. 🙂

November 2024 Highlights

I’m looking back at my calendar for November 2024 and it is primarily filled with solid work days. I basically did six weeks in four weeks between the end of October and end of November. So in this post, I’ll just give a shoutout to two favourite restaurants my boss treated me to on the odd evening I finished early. 😉

The first one is Miyabi, a Japanese restaurant with a beautiful indoor/outdoor primary dining room.

This is my usual order, with mixed tempura that features ginormous sweet shrimp, two octopus nigiri, and then a roll that has fresh and spicy tuna WITHOUT CHEESE. Of course, I have a Sapporo beer to wash it all down. All of this with a generous tip is around 600 pesos.

Alma isn’t usually a proper snuggler, but she likes to touch me.

Dodger is a bit more cuddly and will sit on my feet if I’m getting up and moving around too much.

The other restaurant I went to is Little India, which moved from a very inconvenient location deep in centro to one further north that I can easily bus to. The food is delicious. I always get the thali, which is a plate with several different dishes. Not featured is my starter, pakora, which are deep-fried garbanzo flour and onion fritters that I promised myself I’d try making at home.

My tolerance for heat continues to grow. When I first visited Little India in its initial location, I had beef vindaloo (about 5 o’clock in the photo below) and struggled to finish it as it was so hot. I left all of the gravy. Fast forward to this visit and I did not find the vindaloo to be unbearably hot and I had all the gravy. This wasn’t just a one-off, I have a lot of other examples, like the quantity of fresh habanero sauce that went on my quesadillas the morning I wrote this post. Not being afraid of heat now is such an opening into a new culinary frontier.

October 2024 Highlights

October 2024 was a blur. I was pretty much triple booked at work as I was facing weeks of back-to-back real-time trials where I would have to do my regular work as overtime. I just focussed on getting through my pages while still doing a lot of cooking and, of course, keeping up my Pilates routine.

Cat photos for the month. Alma is so droll.

Dodger is adorable.

A lady reached out on Facebook offering me these gifts for some helpful posts I’d made in her group. Just goes to show that when you comment online, it’s never in a vacuum. Someone is reading. Be kind.

The only really significant thing that happened in October was a major power outage that ended with me feeling even more settled and supported here in Mérida.

Mid-month, thankfully before the real-time marathon, the power went off for hours. I reported to CFE, who said they were working on it. Neighbours also had an outage. It eventually got dark and I realised that the neighbours had power but I still didn’t… It’s the weirdest thing – I’d felt for months that I was about to have a major electrical problem with the house. I have a sneaking suspicion my body was reacting to something very real since electricity can be felt. I almost felt relief in this moment that whatever I was facing had arrived and would be dealt with.

I called CFE to tell them I still did not have power. They sent someone out surprisingly quickly, well within the four promised hours. He did all his checks and told me that he didn’t believe the problem was at their end and that I had to call an electrician. Thankfully, I had someone in my contacts that I thought could deal with something this major. I’d had a water pump fail some months before and this fellow had responded to my bat call for help, getting me sorted very late on a Sunday, including a hail Mary run to Home Depot at the eleventh hour before they closed. He’d gotten the work done, done well, and his price had been almost absurdly fair.

I messaged him that I needed help and he responded promptly that he was available. I asked the CFE guy if he could call and explain the situation and he oh-so-kindly did.

My electrician arrived super quickly and he started right from the basics, troubleshooting all my breakers and even rechecking the CFE guy’s work (yes, he climbed the pole). The problem was primarily at the entrance to the house, partly CFE’s fault, partly the fault of my main breaker panel. He told me that he had a contact at CFE that would probably come after his shift. It would all be above-the-board work using approved CFE methods, but I’d be paying him cash under the table. The two of them would get me sorted that night. Or I could put in a work order and wait for days. Of course I went with option A.

We headed to Home Depot for parts while we waited for the CFE worker. He was waiting for us by the time we got home. The guys then spent hours working their magic and somewhere in all of that, my house got upgraded to 50-amp service! They finally got the lights on around 11:00PM.

There were three culprits, one at the pole, one at the main breaker, and then a short at the house breaker that has probably been the cause of my lights flickering and constantly burning out despite being 15-year LEDs. The electrician said that this is probably what I was feeling all these months.

The upgraded service has been amazing and such a blessing — I can run the oven and Vitamix at the same time! The lights don’t flicker when I run the microwave! Oh, and I haven’t had a light bulb burn out in months.

Parts and labour cost me all of 6,000 pesos, and I have the security of having a really responsive electrician/plumber I can trust to stick with me through a crisis to a satisfactory resolution. I still feel very blessed.